NEJM – Error

mitigatedchaos:

In the #MeToo era, men’s fear of mentoring builds on the notion that women are not intelligent or perceptive enough to know the difference between a mentor’s good and bad intentions. It is on this foundation of misogyny that the claim that men fear mentoring women is built.

It doesn’t matter for the man if the woman can tell the difference between his good and bad intentions if she herself has bad intentions.

We also have to keep in mind that while there is significant overlap, one of the reasons the sexes are constantly squabbling in the public sphere is that, due to a combination of personality distribution and non-shared assumptions, they are in fact often bad at judging the other sex’s intentions.  Particularly, this problem is ongoing as both sexes deliberately use ambiguity in social situations as part of their social behavior.

(There’s a post floating around Tumblr by a woman that says her jokes about being sexually interested are only jokes if the other person isn’t also interested.  The linked article does some psycho-analysis – we could here, too, but suffice it to say that there are reasons people do that and those reasons aren’t going away.)

And of course, intelligence acts under the influence of ideology, which can prime people to see good or bad intentions where there aren’t any.

I’d say the article is mixed, and some of the recommendations it makes for specific actions are more-or-less good, but there’s definitely this undercurrent of “men are just making up their concerns in order to oppress women” and “men don’t have a right to take actions to protect themselves and their reputations,” both of which are an all-too-common attitude in Feminist thought.

Making family leave policies available to everyone is good and straightforward and helps non-traditional households.

On the other hand, any kind of “implicit bias training” is automatically suspect.

In the #MeToo era, men’s fear of mentoring builds on the notion that women are not intelligent or perceptive enough to know the difference between a mentor’s good and bad intentions. It is on this foundation of misogyny that the claim that men fear mentoring women is built.

“If you think other humans aren’t mind readers, that means you think women are unintelligent and you are a misogynist.”

Well I know what I think the author of this piece is, anyway.

NEJM – Error

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