slatestarscratchpad:

Thanks. I looked into the Red Pill stuff. I am dating several people casually, but none of them are interested in settling down, or they all have other partners they want to settle down with instead. According to the terminology on the Red Pill sites I looked at, this means I am too alpha and I need to become more beta. But none of them give any advice on this; they just seem to assume you want to go the other direction. This doesn’t seem very relevant to my needs and I probably won’t be reading it further.